Most couples seem to be in what we call a cycle of retaliation. Here's how it works:

Because of a self-absorbed lifestyle or just a lack of "know-how", the husband fails to love his wife as she needs to be loved. Consequently, the wife does not feel loved, and, therefore, she does not feel like loving him back. This causes her to act cold, indifferent, sarcastic, rude, emotionally and/or physically absent in bed, angry, and, well, the list goes on.

Now, here is where things go from bad to worse. The husband feels disrespected. In fact, the more disrespected he feels, the less he feels like loving his wife. This only causes him to retreat into his emotional and, often times, physical "cave".

Now, the wife feels less loved than ever, and, in turn, she becomes even more angry, cold, indifferent, bitter, et cetera toward her husband. Do you see the cycle? It's horribly vicious! Does this accurately describe your marriage? Our special Help for Your Marriage Package will help you to break this cycle. (Especially points 2, 7, and 8 of our book, How to Stop or Prevent a Divorce)

Before looking at our Help for Your Marriage Package, we would ask that you read the next few paragraphs.

Are you like my wife and I once were? Do you feel like there's no end to your marriage problems?

Take a Few Moments and Read this Actual Press Release from Dr. Raymond Force. This has been, by far, our most popular article used by newspapers and magazines around the country:

Actual Press Release:  What Men Wish Their Wives Knew About Men   

OCALA, Florida, April 10th, 2008 -- Christian Counselor and author, Dr. Raymond Force, believes that wives are sometimes "their own arch-enemies" when it comes to getting what they want out of their husbands.

In his new book, Dr. Raymond Force writes:

     "The woman that ridicules her husband by making sarcastic remarks and subtle inferences to his lack of leadership and abilities is not only hurting her husband, but also herself. She is not only ensuring that he will have a tough time rising above her low view of him, but she will also end up despising him for not being half the man that she has discouraged him to be."

Dr. Force agrees that men are in need of reform when it comes to marital issues, but he also feels that the real issues that are keeping women from having a positive affect on their husbands are often overlooked.

     "Most books that I have read on marriage and relationships portray men as relational clowns," says Force. "Whereas, women tend to get off 'scot free'. It is true that most husbands need to change their approach to marriage, but many wives are unaware that their frustrated phrases and condescending remarks are pushing their men into an emotional pit."

When asked if men are emotional creatures, Force says, "Of course. They just don't typically 'wear it on their sleeves' as much. Men are very emotional creatures that yearn for respect. When they don't feel that from the women in their lives, they tend to retract into their 'caves'. Sadly to say, many men hang out at the gym or the office because they feel more respected there than in their own homes."

Dr. Force, in addition to directing Hitting Home, has hosted his own television show, appeared on numerous radio programs, and served as a Christian marriage and family counselor, pastor and public speaker for 15 years. Force's goal is not to expose negative actions just for the sake of being negative. He desires to help people to see their self-defeating behavior in a whole new light.

Another excerpt:

     "Throughout time, women have been tempted to withhold their love and affection toward their husbands because they fail to measure up to their expectations. A woman that has given in to this temptation must realize that when she holds back from loving her husband because he doesn't meet her standards, she is simply holding her love as a ransom until he comes up with the appropriate payment. This is actually a form of manipulation."

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